Be Reliable. It’s sexy.
There are very few people in this world that are reliable. People who call or message when they say they will. Who rarely change plans last minute. Who say they are there for you and really are. Be that person. Keep your promises. Be reliable, it’s sexy. The world needs more people like you. You could save a life. Uphold the faith for others.
If you don’t fit in. Great! Then don’t.
Feel like a square peg for a round hole? We all want to feel a sense of belonging. The truth is, we don’t fit in everywhere. If you’re feeling left out or like you don’t fit in, then good. Don’t. You are you. Find the people more like you or find yourself and do what makes you happy. Even if it means doing things on your own. Stop wasting time and energy trying to fit in with people, work colleagues or a sporting team. Find another friend, job, sport or go it alone.
Accept all of you. Right now!
Yep. Flaws and all. We all have things we don’t particularly like about ourselves. It might be our hair, our moods or where we work or live. Everything in life is temporary. Learn to be aware of these things and let it go. Don’t let them consume you. Remind yourself that you are the best person you can be right at this moment. Be aware of how you talk to yourself. The first step to change is awareness.
Change yourself and the expectations you have of others.
The power of change is solely within the individual. There is very little you can do to help others change. Your expectations of others will lead to disappointment. Your happiness is a thousand times more important and eventually will reflect onto others. You may even form empathy and understanding for others by knowing how hard it was to be constantly working on yourself and your own goals.
Don’t base your decisions on what you believe others think of you.
This is the biggest trap of all. I have found the way we believe that others think and see us is false. Be brave. Make your decisions. Own them. Besides, what others think of you is their problem. Live your big life and make the hard decisions. You will be rewarded for your courage and decisiveness as well as being on the path of growth, personal discovery and achievement.
Keep a dream journal.
All our hopes, fears and desires are translated in our dreams. Keep a dream journal so you can reflect back to see how far you’ve come and achieved. Interestingly, you will recognise that you have already dreamed up your future.
You don’t have to be friends with your brothers and sisters.
Love your parents as they will always be your teachers. Whilst it’s nice in theory that your entire family gets along, your brothers and sisters don’t have to be your friend. They are your siblings. If they weren’t your siblings, would you have chosen them to be your friend? Enough said.
Rewrite your story and get happy.
I was a very negative, sad and withdrawn person most of my life. All the words from my mouth reflected the sadness from within. I felt the world was against me. I couldn’t understand or digest the events that happened. Over years and years I kept writing and embellishing the sad story in my mind of how I had been mistreated, cheated and unwanted. I believed that I should have been braver and stronger. Through professional help I changed my story. I rewrote my life’s movie in my mind. I was loved, fortunate and spoiled. I was kind, warm, smart, funny and beautiful.
Part of the process is accepting my adult self and giving everything that was missing to my inner child. I promised to look after her forever. Here’s the letter I wrote to her.
To the little girl inside
I am here for you. I will stand up for you when you are not strong or brave enough. I will be your voice. I will hold your hand when you are afraid. I’ll be the one you can talk to when everything seems so difficult. I shall protect your heart. I will be your 3am phone call. I will lift you up when you are down. I will be your friend and confidant. I will be there when you need me. I will help you learn that it’s ok to trust me. I will never give up on you. I am here for you. Always. That’s my promise to you.
Listen to your thoughts and declutter your mind.
We think and rerun about twenty of the same thoughts daily. These thoughts should be acted upon and dealt with as soon as practically possible. The energy you have placed towards these thoughts can be used elsewhere.
Remove the to-do or wish list that nags you to feel motivated and less stuck. By doing so, you have the chance to think other thoughts and be constantly moving forward in life. Try it, see how it feels.
Be who you want to be.
If you dream of being a writer, then write. If you want to become a runner, then run. If your heart’s desire is to become a world traveller, then travel. It’s that simple. Start today. You don’t have to write an award winning novel to be a writer. You just have to write. You don’t have to run a marathon to be considered a runner. Just run. You don’t have to have travelled the world to be considered a world traveller. Just travel. I think you catch my drift. Who do you want to be?