It has been interesting lately going back into my childhood memories to recall how my parent’s advice has echoed throughout my life.
My parents today would tell me that they did not have all the answers. They just did the best they knew how with the information and tools that they had. I am proud to have taken some of their insights with me along the way.
You truly are an inspiration. As I grow older I get to see the person you really are. No longer are you just a mother to me. You are a woman, a lady, a friend, a confidant and of course a wonderful mother. Here are some of the things I have taken with me because of you (whether you know it or not). Thank you and I love you.
Follow your heart
Not only to follow it, but listen to it. Your heart always has the answers.
You always said I could be or do anything I ever wanted. You also said to never give up on my dreams. There is not a single dream not worth chasing. Our dreams drive passion and passion is the key to everything.
Short hair is ladylike
When I was very young, people often mistook me for a boy so I hated my mum’s short haircuts. As an adult, I grew my hair halfway down my back to fit in with everyone else. I embrace my short hair now. It makes me feel powerful, different from the crowd and proud that I am a woman. I like going against society’s expectation of women to have long flowing locks to be considered attractive and beautiful.
Short, tight skirts are not recommended for teenagers who want to play basketball in their lunch hour at school. I remember begging my mother to make that skirt for me because all the other girls had one. I ripped it up the back seam within a few days. Lesson learnt. Do not play sport in short, tight skirts. Dress appropriately for all facets of your life.
Make a decision
When I am at a crossroad and a decision needs to be made, I pick up a coin and toss it. If I hope for one side over the other I already have the answer. It does not even matter how the coin falls. Mum, this is what you told me years ago when I did not know if I wanted to go travelling with the girls or go back to an ex boyfriend. Such a simple idea which I still use today.
The grass is never greener
True, but you can always go and see and come back…right mum?
Try your best, always
Nobody is brilliant at everything. My best was all I could do and you never asked me for anything more.
Growing up you were my idol. If I was disappointing anyone, I never wanted it to be you. I followed you everywhere to learn the things you knew. I watched and I was there because I wanted to be. Here are some of the things you taught me along the way (even if you don’t think so). I love you and thank you with all my heart.
Listen to your mother
You were never the best with emotional support and I needed a lot of it. Do not be upset. We both know this is true. In these times you would always tell me to listen to my mother and you were right.
Hard work pays off
Most things are never just given to us. We need to work hard and remain focused to get to where we want to be in life. You showed this to me on a daily basis.
Take care of your possessions
I was fortunate enough to have many prized possessions. You always said that if I take care of these things they would last a lifetime. Whether it is servicing my car, hanging up my bridle or cleaning my shoes. I thank you for teaching me to take the time to care.
Animals are awesome
I really have no idea what my life would be like without animals in it and I never ever want to find out. You gave me so many pets that I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Thank you for sharing your love of animals with me and helping me create compassion, respect, commitment and responsibility.
Take your medicine
As a Veterinarian Surgeon you always believed in science. It is important to take the full prescription of antibiotics. It is because of you that I have a healthy respect for drugs. In this lifetime, I have had plenty of opportunity to misuse and abuse, but I didn’t.
Save your money
Both of you taught me to save up and be patient to buy the things that mattered most. My five dollar a week allowance went a long way when I hadn’t collected it for three months. I banked it to buy that saddle I wanted. $500 was a lot to me in those days. Then after my first full time job I saved and saved to go to Europe. Since then, I have never looked back.
My Parents, My Teachers
Sitting here, I am thinking of a multitude of aspects that come standard with being a parent teaching a child to be the best they can be. Respect your Elders. Be kind to others. Avoid trouble. Be careful. Family is important. Trust your instincts Drive safely. Learn that your actions have consequences. Most of all, you taught me to enjoy life, take opportunities and have fun.
*I chose travelling, then went back to the ex boyfriend